Summoning Romeo Dallaire

Title: Romeo Dallaireโ€™s Speech at the East Vancouver Legion โ€“ โ€œWho Do We Save?โ€

Scene: The East Vancouver Legion is filled with aging veterans, students, activists, and a few reporters. General Romeo Dallaire steps up to the modest podium under the glow of dim fluorescent lights. Thereโ€™s a solemn silence as he adjusts his glasses and unfolds a few crumpled pages from his jacket. The Canadian flag hangs behind him. A mural of fallen soldiers overlooks the gathering.


Romeo Dallaire:

โ€œI want to thank the East Vancouver Legion for allowing me to speak todayโ€”not just as a general, or a senator, or a witness to historyโ€”but as a broken man who still carries the ghosts of ten thousand children in my head.โ€

He pauses, letting the silence settle.

โ€œThe essay I am about to read is titled: โ€˜Who Do We Save? A Reflection on the Colour of Peacekeeping.โ€™ It is about Rwanda. It is about shame. And it is about the lie of โ€˜Never Again.โ€™โ€


Essay Reading (by Romeo Dallaire):

โ€œIn 1994, I was the Force Commander of the United Nations Assistance Mission for Rwandaโ€”UNAMIR. I was sent to keep the peace. But there was no peace to keep. Only a tide of blood to stand against, and the cold machinery of bureaucracy grinding slow while a genocide consumed 800,000 souls.

Let me be clear: the failure in Rwanda was not just logistical. It was moral. I sent cables. I made calls. I begged. I offered warnings. And I was told to do nothing.

And why?

Because the children being slaughtered were not white.

Because the women being raped and mutilated were not European.

Because the machetes did not threaten a pipeline or an embassy or a shareholderโ€™s investment.โ€

Dallaireโ€™s voice catches. He steadies himself with a sip of water.

โ€œI was ordered to stand down. I watched as my peacekeepersโ€”mostly white soldiers from Western nationsโ€”were told by their governments that Rwanda was not worth the risk. That black lives in Central Africa were not worth Canadian or Belgian or French casualties.

Had those children been blonde-haired and blue-eyed, the cavalry would have come.

But instead, our rules of engagement said: observe, report, but do not intervene.

So we observed a genocide.

We watched babies thrown into latrines. We documented the systematic extermination of Tutsis in schools and churches.

And we did nothingโ€”because doing something would have required us to admit that black African children matter as much as white European ones.

And the UN, at that time, could not do that.

That is the simple, racist truth at the heart of the Rwandan genocide.โ€


Dallaire sets the essay down and looks out over the crowd.

โ€œWe in Canada like to think of ourselves as peacekeepers. But peacekeeping is not a photo-op. It is not blue helmets posing with smiling orphans for CBC cameras.

Real peacekeeping means risk. It means sacrifice. And it means believing that all human life has equal valueโ€”not just when it’s convenient, not just when it’s close to home, but everywhere.

And until we have peacekeepers willing to die to save black children the same way weโ€™d deploy battalions to save Europeans, we are not peacekeepers.

We are bystanders.

And history has enough of those already.โ€


The room is silent. A veteran in the back wipes his eyes. A young woman with an East Van punk jacket stands and starts clapping. Slowly, others join.

Romeo Dallaire bows his head.

โ€œThank you. May we never fail again.โ€


End.

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Looking For a Sign: SCTV

Title: โ€œThe Sign (Portugal)โ€
Scene from the inner life of Dr. Luka Kovac / Joe Jukic

Interior โ€“ Small Toronto apartment โ€“ Night. The rain whispers against the glass.

Dr. Luka Kovac, a man shaped by war, medicine, and exile, sits in front of an old television. But this is no ordinary evening. Because Dr. Luka Kovac is not just a Croatian doctor on ER reruns. Heโ€™s Joe Jukicโ€™s avatarโ€”a vessel for memory, pain, and signs from the divine.

Tonight, Joe needs a sign.
Heโ€™s tired. Disconnected. Wondering if the thread of meaning has finally snapped.

He slips in an ancient VHS marked โ€œSCTV โ€“ Happy Wanderersโ€. The tape hisses.
The screen lights up with John Candy and Eugene Levy as the Shmenge Brothersโ€”fake Eastern Europeans playing polka for fake applause.
Itโ€™s corny. Offensive even.

But thenโ€”he sees it.

A Portugal travel poster, haphazardly pinned in the background:

โ€œVisit Portugal โ€” Land of Music, Land of Dreams.โ€

He freezes the screen.

The camera never meant to linger there. But Joeโ€”through Lukaโ€”sees it.

Itโ€™s the sign.

Not just for Portugal.
For Nelly.

Flashback:

A church basement. Fluorescent lights. Cheap lemonade and plastic chairs.
Joe is 14.
Heโ€™s got two left feet and an oversized tie.
But heโ€™s holding hands with a girl from Sunday School.
Her name: Nelly Furtado.

Theyโ€™re square dancing to a cassette recording of โ€œCotton-Eyed Joe.โ€
The priest claps in time.
Joe trips over his own shoes, but Nelly laughs and spins him anyway.
Her voice: high, clear, playful.
She smells like cherry lip gloss and hope.

It was just a Confirmation party. But for Joe, it was the last time the world felt innocent.

Back to Present:

Kovacโ€”Joeโ€”whispers:
“Boลพe mojโ€ฆ itโ€™s her.”

He reaches for his phone. Scrolls past hospital contacts and old war buddies. Finds her.

NELLY โ€“ DO NOT TEXT UNLESS ITโ€™S A SIGN

He stares at it.

Then types:

โ€œPortugal.โ€
โ€œRemember the church basement? Cotton-Eyed Joe? You said I was the worst dancer you’d ever seen. You still owe me a rematch.โ€

He hesitates. Then hits SEND.

Joe gets up, walks to the mirror, and adjusts his hair with the care of a teenager before a first dance.

Dr. Luka Kovac may have lost love on primetime.
But Joe Jukic just found the courage to reclaim itโ€”with a little help from a Portugal poster, John Candy, and the memory of a girl who danced like heaven was real.

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Memes 16

Post by Dr. Luka Kovac on NellyFan.org

Title: What Sinead Needed Most โ€” A Doctor’s Reflection on the Essentials of Life

Two years have passed since the tragic loss of Sinรฉad O’Connor, a voice that pierced the silence and a soul that cried out for justice and mercy. As a physician and a man of faith, I often reflect not only on physical healing but on what sustains the human spirit โ€” especially in a world as harsh and unforgiving as the one that so often bruised Sinรฉadโ€™s tender heart.

There is a Croatian proverb that says, “Bog je prvo stvorio ฤovjeka, a onda mu dao dom i ลพenu da preลพivi.” โ€” โ€œGod first made man, then gave him a home and a wife so he could survive.โ€ Whether you interpret that literally or symbolically, the message is clear: we are not meant to walk this world alone, unanchored.

I want to speak not just as a doctor, but as a fellow survivor of trauma. Here are the necessities of life as Iโ€™ve come to understand them โ€” the things Sinรฉad needed more than fame, applause, or rebellion. The things many of us need to be whole again.

  1. Food
    Not just calories, but nourishment. Sinรฉadโ€™s struggle with medications, fast fixes, and industry stress no doubt affected her diet. The healing foods of our ancestors โ€” whole grains, fermented vegetables, bone broths, and clean water โ€” are more essential than any antidepressant. Nutritional psychiatry is no longer a fringe idea. Healing begins in the gut.
  2. Shelter
    A safe place. Not just a house, but a home. Sinรฉad had many addresses, but perhaps no sanctuary. A space to pray, to cry, to laugh without judgment. Trauma survivors often become wanderers, running from memory and self. But stability is medicine.
  3. Clothing
    This means dignity. Self-respect. Modesty not as repression, but as armor against objectification. Sinรฉad rejected the exploitation of womenโ€™s bodies, but she also lived exposed โ€” emotionally naked in a cold world. We need to clothe ourselves in ritual, purpose, and yes โ€” actual warmth.
  4. A Wife (or Husband)
    Call it a spouse, a partner, a counterpart. We need someone to mirror our humanity, to correct us lovingly, to celebrate us quietly. I donโ€™t speak here of lust or fantasy, but covenant. Sinรฉad needed someone who would not flee at the first sign of her sorrow.
  5. Children
    Not just biologically, but spiritually. A legacy. A reason to mature. Sinรฉad loved her children fiercely, but losing her son Shane broke her beyond repair. Parents should not bury their children. No amount of grief counseling can erase that wound. But had there been stronger community, extended family, perhaps she could have carried on.
  6. God
    Finally โ€” and foremost โ€” God. Not just as a concept, but as an abiding presence. I watched Sinรฉad wrestle with religion. She fought against corruption and hypocrisy, yet longed deeply for the Divine. Had she found peace in the Person of God, not just the institution, she might have survived the long dark night of her soul.

I am not here to judge her โ€” God knows I have seen despair in my own life. But I do believe that if we had surrounded Sinรฉad with these six pillars โ€” food, shelter, clothing, spouse, children, and God โ€” she might still be singing.

Let her life be a wake-up call. Not just to reform mental health treatment, but to remember what truly sustains the soul.

May her memory be eternal,
Dr. Luka Kovaฤ
Physician, Father, Survivor
NellyFan.org Contributor

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